Make activities where you and everyone share so they can see, show them is a good thing to do by you sharing with them and where they see people sharing. Children are very perceptive to what they seeDo any of you mothers out there have any advice on how I can get my 2 and 3 year old to share?
I found that by consistently taking away any toy that is being fought over generally works. Let them know in advance that if they start fighting over a toy it will be taken away from both of them. When the toy is returned let them know that any fighting over it will result in it being taken away again.
When they fight quit choosing ';winners'; and ';losers';. No matter who did what first, who is crying, lost out make them both lose. Eventually they will quit fighting if they know the both get in trouble.
As for sharing I use a few techniques, the timer technique, where each get a share until the timer goes off; the fight and no one gets it technique and the old standby, ';it's mine now';.
Seriously, not sharing comes from being allowed to fight. Stop the fighting, don't be afraid to take things away and be consistent.
Yes, it's called PARENTAL OVERSIGHT %26amp; INTERVENTION.
It's done by PARENTS.
It's not done by the Daycare, or the Babysitter, or the neighbors, or the kids next door, or our best friend's kids who come to visit, or the little gangbangers at school, or anyone else for that matter.
It's done by PARENTS, who stop sitting on their hands, get up away from the TV... or stop going out to get drunk.... and start acting like they give a ****.
Honesty is always the truest form of flattery.
Tough one. I am told that kids simply cannot understand the concept at all until they are 5... something to do with their simplistic concept of ';me'; and ';mine'; (someone will know the theory I am sure).
I find the only way is to say ';if you don't share, I will take it away';. Then do take it away if they don't share! They catch on soon enough.
I also encourage playing with toys that have multiple parts (blocks, tea sets etc) so that sharing is not so difficult.
Good luck.
simplely yell at them to share or give them time out , my mom did that to me and my bros a lot now that we are older we are smarter and stuff, kids might come back why don't u buy us two and now we are older and know why u can't by 2 but just give them time out and stuff. i use to fear my mom but she was great
Well, the children are 2 and 3 and they are pretty self-centered. Just keep reminding them about sharing and then give positive reinforcement. Look around for some book on sharing that you can read to the kids.
We made a game out of it. It did take some parental play and it didn't happen over night. I got things my kids liked a lot, although they were not expensive. I had something a little nicer than theirs. We would sit on the bed or the floor and play with our toy. Then, I would ask my daughter if I could play with hers. We traded. My son decided that he wanted the toy my daughter had, so they traded. It took about a week of playing, but it worked.
take it away until they do
I'm not a mother yet, but I always watch Supper Nanny on TV (Yeah, kinda corny, I know, but she does give good advice). One of the things I love about her is how she suggests giving stickers (like on a board) for everytime the child does something good, like sharing. And then once he/she gets up to 10 stickers, 20 stickers, however many you want... then he/she gets a prize at the end. My parents used to do something similar with me when I was little and it worked =)
ok tell him he needs to share if he doesnt than take the thing away and tell him he cant have it until he learns to share keep doing this
take it from an experienced dad, teach them to say please at that age. the other stuff can wait another year.
They are a little too young to get this concept yet. They are just babies and very much into self. Give them some time.
This worked for me - It may not be good for everyone but here goes - I would ask my daughter to share something with me..crayon, juice, etc..and if she became bossy I would pretend to cry. Little ones don't like to see mommy upset and she would come to me...we would talk about how it makes us feel good to share and how sometimes it is hard to want to give up the toy/etc. If I asked my daughter and she said, ';not right now please, I would really like to finish etc..'; I would say thank you and leave her with that...I think it is just as important for a child to be able to value their space as share.
i got an idea. Buy them some kind of snack they both really like, but 2 different kinds and give a big amount to each of them and say that they can only eat their share unless theyd like to share. idk if u get what im saying but something along those lines lol
It's a long, slow process. Be patient, be kind, they will eventually get this down. It's a bitter lesson for a little person and they will not do it until it's developmentally appropriate for them to do it and they have had a whole lot of practice!
If it's something cut-able, like a sandwich, or banana, let one of them choose where to cut it, but the other gets to choose which piece they want.
ok well its rly hard i mean i have a 3 yearold bro tht shares wit like his cousin thts his age but the older cousin(7) trys to tke stuff from him but it depends on if its girl girl boy boy or girl boy i mean its different .
boy,boy- usually share but can get rough so they get mad then dont so u have to tell them ifthey cant share then time out or not toys for the rest of the night.
girl,girl-they can get into cat fights and hate sharing so you have to tell them that if they don't share then they'll be seperated and no toys.
boy,girl- hard one. well they don't really have the same toys so lets say they both want the same toy tell them that either they won't get it at all unless they share, by taking turns, or using it at the same time.
Teach them to share by showing them a good example. Say, you and your partner must have time for sharing anything that your kids visually observed and found out. In such situation, your kids will imitate what you are showing to them.
when they are fighting over a toy, try giving the toy a time out. they have to put the toy away until they agree to share it. you could also use a kitchen timer and each one of them gets the toy for 5-10 mins and when the alarm sounds they have to give it to the other child.hope this helps.
let them take turns and get cool things that they like.
share or give it all to the other untill you learn to share
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